Monday, October 17, 2011
Why this Kolaveri di?
It was late July 2011, when fate brought me to chennai...a place I am not greatly fond of......more so with respect to finding my life partner.....I landed in Chennai with a different purpose...I asked for trouble when I involved myself in the assignment.... It was being run by the person who brought me to knees...but such is my magnanimity that I decided to give it all I had.....I bore all the rebukes and rebuttal of the client on my face......so shameless I was that the client became a great personal friend over time.....even though the client believed that we delivered not to their expectations........those 15 days I was thankful to my previous job for having made me thick-skinned enough to take shouting of client...
In the midst of all confusion, my parents fixed my meeting with a girl......As arrogant as I am, I rubbished it as just another enquiry.....after much pursuation, we exchanged numbers....it was refreshing to talk somebody with no baggage....2 sleepless nights were spent talking absolute nonsense.....the girl seemed impressed.....even in the most plush hotel, I had nights where I wondered if my search had actually ended....
Everyday the status of the deal changed colors like a chameleon.....even though I had closed my advisory business in the winter of 2003, I had to re-open it for the benefit of this silly deal that was going to benefit some unknown poor people......but still I pursued....I was not sure of who this girl was and how she looked....even though I enjoyed pouring my heart to her.....sharing my not-so-intimate secrets with her...but some remained hidden though.....the conversation reached a point where meeting became of paramount importance....As one of the heated debated negotiation ended at 10pm on 21st July , I called upon the lady.....response was positive...the first meeting was extremely uncomfortable.....I was not impressed....I decided to give it a pass......
The deal was signed on 22nd at 11pm and I was as emotional as I am...Exulted I took pictures...even though everybody was making faces....I was to leave the next day...back to Bangalore.....Following multiple interactions with loads of devil's advocates (special mention to my local guardians in Bangalore - Ashwin-Preethy), I decided to give my life another chance...
Disheveled with a strong musk perfume, I met her the second time at Pizza hut at Nungambakkam.....on the 23rd of July.....I opened the most despicable chapters of my life that included smoking, drinking and the madam episode....with great patience she listened and responded, "I want to you to quit smoking.....tone down drinking......for the rest of our lives if you remain mine....thats all I expect..".....My response, "how sure are you?"....she said, "99%".....I asked, "whats this 1%?"....she replied, "because you have not decided"....I asked for time and boy did I get it....at that busy signal at nungambakkam, I stood watching her start her scooty....for once I felt that if I let this woman go NOW, it would probably haunt me for the rest of my life.....I pretended to be oblivious of her presence as I searched for my cab in the confusion....In that confusion a baloon hung over my head that said, "its now or never".....
On my way to airport, I thought about all the women who had come and gone.....all having spent considerable time with me....draining me all of what I had......making me re-invent myself every SINGLE TIME..... did they bother? NOPES..... how long did I know this lady? 1 week...and within a week....a week thats all she took to make a life changing decision....with unknown follies and my idiosynchrasies.... what was wrong with this lady? I debated.....but to my dismay I found no opposition..... I was sure that I was missing some point....what was it.....I was already at Guindy by this time....and I still had no answer.....The otherwise mundane looking blackberry looked like hanuman pleading to be dialed.....I dialed her...."Make your 99%, 100%"....and thats how Sindhu happened.....
No fake names now....its open now....the soul mate has been found.....the search has ended....Its a madrasi......a madrasi with a tamilian accent of hindi.....a madrasi who can switch to tam abuses at the drop of a hat....a madrasi who broke my dams of racism.... a madrasi who believed in your's truly's confused ideologies.....a madrasi who remains in awe of my convoluted version of world...a madrasi who when gets upset I sing, "why this Kolaveri?"
We are not perfect and neither do we aspire to be one......we box each other, when required.... and the final declaration is on 26 Feb 2012.....
So, my faithful followers...a new chapter begins....you are invited for the same....
Sunday, May 15, 2011
I missed "Myself"
And then the realization dawned about a couple of days back while waiting for the last drop of beer dive into my mouth from the pint bottle held aloft like a trophy.
I have always been obsessed with myself. Whether it is my talent - a largely "underutilized" kitchen knife yet brandished like a sword at small public gatherings or my own experiments with people ending with some sort of heart pain. I have loved this outlook of life where I am the protogonist and I am the audience to the story of my life.
I cannot remain emersed under the ocean of grief like a saint on a penance and neither can I burst in laughter and joy like a cracker on fire. I do, however, violently swing between these two extremes like Tarzan. It irritates people....but who cares....
While reading through my old blog entries, I realised that I was at my expression best when I was most discontent. The pain and sorrow never took me to sea bed and the joy never took me to seventh heaven. That was a state where my thoughts were at their best as I was constantly at a state of "half empty glass".
Having reached both the crest and trough in the last year and half year, I am slowly switching to the mediocrity in life. In nut shell, I missed "Myself". There is no other way to describe it. So, soon there will be a spate of nice perspectives on life as this blog unfolds from hereon.
Friday, November 13, 2009
In Bangalore
As I splashed the cold water on my face, trying to relieve my eyes of the alocohol oozing out of it, it stung me like a scorpion. My parents were ready.. I checked my bags again.... tickets, i.d. proofs, money, credit cards, documents..... all in place...my sister and my brother-in-law came down. My nephew wanted to bid me goodbye last night, but the noise of the late night party murdered his innocent wishes... I have been that way for a long time.....dead........and killing everything that is even remotely assuring.....
What was I feeling? Was I sad, glad, excited, afraid.. I wanted to be sure of what I wanted to feel... time was passing faster than I wanted it to.. and my silly mind was still undecided on my expression....all baggages dumped in the car.... and it was over... there was no fog.. nothing..
It was like a normal entry to the airport... as I walked into the check in counter, I saw my mother wiping tears off her eyes, I wondered again... Should I also cry..... Am I supposed to......Callous as I am , I waved and moved towards the security cheking....
Just a second before entering the aircraft , I took a longer than normal breath inside...... to take in Whatever I could, memories, people, events, relations, friends, places,... the air of Delhi.....I landed in Bangalore to a wonderful weather, with a board that said, "Deepak Srinivas, welcome to Bangalore"....
Saturday, October 31, 2009
An era concludes
Friday, October 16, 2009
Conversations with a married man
MM: What Hmmm?
Me: Interesting...
MM: What?
Me: This state of yours... I am quite jealous actually..
MM: Ohh shut, stop rubbing salt on my wounds..
Me: No.. really... U get good food.. u know breakfast-lunch-dinner types, u hav a date on weekends.. permanent one that too...
MM: You just crossed over to being the dumbest person alive on earth...
Me: Well, where was I earlier?
MM: You were getting dumber, but now I just have to pronounce you as the dumbest..
Me: Thats a revelation.. but why this sudden realization of reality.. I thought you had a love marriage?
MM: Not exactly
Me: Oh.. Come on..
MM: Really.. we just knew that we would be able to tolerate each other....
Me: What are you saying??
MM: Yup.. most marriages happen that way...the "so-called" love marriages
Me: Elaborate
MM: Well, there are two kinds of people who get married...
Me: Ok.. and..
MM: The two ends of the spectrum basically.. the ones who have had lots of relationships and the ones who havent. The one's who have had lots of relationships, over time realise that the novelty part is missing, except the sex part.. and then they get bored of that as well....so, they decide.. look here is a woman/ man I know, she/he is nice company, tolerates my idiosynchrasies, lends me emotional support, acceptable to my parents, presentable before my friends, is fine with my dining habits..so lets go ahead with that..
Me: Isnt it a very emotional decision?? You are just putting it across as if you are buying a television.
MM: Not at all..kuchh emotion-vemotiona nahi hota yaar...all practicality
Me: What about valentine's day?
MM: WHAT??
Me: Nothing... what about the other types?
MM: Well, yeah... the losers basically.. like you..
Me: what do you mean?
MM: Lets be pragmatic about it... Have you ever been in a relationship?
Me: Once in school....
MM: Shut up, lets leave the puppy love out of it... so basically you have zero experience of anything thats got to do with a girl
Me: Excuse me, I have alot of friends who are females and...
MM: yeah yeah yeah.. you know guys like you are just "good" friends"... Tum log saale achhe dost bane reh jaate ho, aur kuchh ukhaad nahi paate....
Me: I think thats quite rude....(laughing myself on the fact).. go on...
MM: I do mean the physical intimacy, but basically you are never in the thick of things.. you know what I mean?
Me: Nopes..
MM: OK... You know like being involved with a person.. knowing her likes and dislikes.....the important dates, her friends, colleagues, relatives, when will she cry, what makes her laugh, what movies she likes....
Me: Stop stop stop.. u kidding me??
MM: Well, no.. but thats the way it is....am talking of relationship here and not merely screwing around...so, guys like you who have never tasted the forbidden fruit are quite excited on the whole prospect of having a 24 hr female company....
Me: yeah, may be. whats wrong with that? So, what if we long for it?
MM: Did I say that there is anything wrong with it? Point is after marriage, all these girls become wives, girlfriends become wives..and fiances become wives...
Me: And??
MM: Well, the whole scene changes for the guy..
Me: Doesnt it for the girl?
MM: It does, but I guess they are more prepared..
Me: Nonsense..
MM: Well, I see it from guy's perspectives. So, lets keep one end of the equation constant.... I feel claustrophobic from this constant scrutiny...
Me: What scrutiny?
MM: Who are you meeting? When will you come home? Did you pay those bills? Did you talk to my mother/ father? Can we have dinner outside? When will we go to our next holiday? Why are your parents here all the time? blah blah blah... basically they areplaying the 20 question game all the time...
Me: Dont you think these are all relevant questions?
MM: Well, they are, but they do strangulate you when they are asked daily from you..
Me: Is there a solution?
MM: Nopes, it is inevitable...
Me: What about the emotional security? Isnt that important in this stress these days?
MM: Thats a good point. It is a definitely a pillar.. but..
Me: But?
MM: you do get attracted to other women?
Me: I think thats fine.. attraction is natural and...
MM: I am talking of involvement..
Me: You are talking about infedility
MM: Its reality
Me: Nonsense.. I think thats prepostorous..
MM: Seriously.. I think its fine if it remains under wraps..
Me: What bullshit?
MM: its subjective..
Me: U out of your mind?... Its wrong for heaven's sake....
MM: Even if the woman is doing it?
Me: Of course. you can look at it, whichever way you want to.. its wrong all the way...
MM: Ha ha ha
Me: Why that laughter?
MM: Am just amused at your naivity.. Deepak, its happening all around you.. you cannot be an ostrich all the time...
Me: Well, I like being one and am happy about it.. Come on man... Whats the bloody difference between you and animals maan... think about your spouse for a second...
MM: yeah yeah.. dnt you think you need to chill out a bit..
Me: of course not.. this is utter nonsense.. you cannot be justifying your stance for everything that you do... I agree that you know under certain circumstances, you do feel attracted out of wedlock, but doesnt mean that it gives everybody that kind of license
MM: Who gives that license?
Me: I think one must make one's own decisions keeping everything in mind..
MM: What everything? You live your life once.. cant you live it to the maximum?
Me: Thats the most ridiculous justification MM, then might was well not get married..
MM: Exactly.. so, thats the point I wanted to make you udnerstand...all this while.. phewww.... no marriage.. no commitment... no confusion and the world's a happy place.....
Me: Ohhh.. yes.. so, it was all planned.. this entire conversation...
MM: Kind of.. I mean I liked your assumptions about me
(Laughter)
Friday, October 9, 2009
Nostalgia in DTC Bus
As I deboarded that DTC, I thought of the people I had met along the way..... the bus for me is no longer a means of transport, for me its a time machine... and a leveller....."Never forget that you travelled in this bus, it gives you your ability to appreicate the comfort you enjoy today.. whatever little that you have..."
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Branding People
Arvind: My friends say that two guys cannot finish one bottle by themselves
Me: Rubbish..
Arvind: Really, lets buy one..
Me: Ok.. Give me one Pepsi bhaiyya
I think when we name people, there is of course a certain level of humour involved, but its because all these "named" people represent a certain emotion, an event, style, passion and wht not... people with no names are actually quite boring people... trust me... so if you do not have a name already... its time you got one.......
While walking down one moonlit night in Mumbai near Inorbit Mall, Arvind asked me, "you remember the pepsi incident"... "I sure do", I said...." "Quite exciting for us at that age...." Arvind said..... Arvind asked, "What is exciting for us at this age?"......"Mondegar", I said..... We both smiled at each other......